The Strength To Go On

It will happen to every person at one point in their lives: Their lives will suddenly look like it wasn’t worth it at all, be it about feeling small, having unfulfilled dreams, or the idea that you’ve taken the wrong road in life.

For many people, this stops them in their tracks, and some don’t ever recover. Devoid of any need to keep on living, these people end up being ghosts in their own lives, just living from day to day.


The fact, however, is that if you give up on trying to do anything about your life, then you really may as well be dead. Being alive means that you can still change things. You just need a little bit of a wake-up call and some practical advice so you can keep on going.


The first thing you have to realize is that when you stop caring, you are essentially being a drama queen. Moping and withdrawing from the world is usually a big cry for attention, and while it may work in the beginning to help draw your friends to you to take care of you and cheer you up, in the end, it becomes a burden. So the first lesson is: Snap out of it! Don’t be the special little snowflake. If you are going to change anything in your life, it will be because you are doing something about it. No one else can effect a true change in you but yourself.


You have to take stock of your situation. Review your life, and why you ended up in such a state. It could be that you were so earnest in making others feel better that you lost sight of yourself. Do remember that before you can change the world, and help others, you have to help yourself first. Your own life should be your top priority. When you have your own life in order, then you won’t have any problems with helping others.


An important part of getting out of a rut is that you should realize that while it’s great to listen to others, you should draw a fine line between listening to improve yourself, and being swayed by others into doing things that you’re not too hot about.


Before you can find answers to how you can get out of the bind you’re in, you should first ask as many questions as you can about your current situation. Question everything about your current life. Could it have been better if you’d stayed in an older job? Would it have been better if you had moved to another place? This also makes for a healthy exercise, so you can pinpoint how you can change your life.

In the end, having an existential crisis or “life breakdown” is okay. It may be just the thing you need to change and become better – if you know how to take advantage of the situation.