To Love Or Be Loved, The Question Of Humanity


Love has so many powerful attributes that can really make one feel good. Everyone wants to love and be loved. It’s simply human nature to want to have someone to care about and also someone to care about you. Ultimately it is personal preference on whether an individual would rather love someone or be loved, but one thing is certain that people are generally happier in life when they’re filled with some type of love. That said, it’s still a highly contested debate on what is actually preferred, desired or even needed more. For many, it can seem safer to have someone love you more than you love them, while for others the feeling of loving someone and giving them your everything really is what love is all about.

Love has been around as long as human’s have existed on this earth. But What Is Love?? Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection (“I love my mother”) to pleasure (“I loved that meal”). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing:

  • Human kindness
  • Compassion
  • Affection


To love is nothing, to be loved is something, but to love and be loved is everything! Love is truly a complex emotion that does not always have to be reciprocated. It’s possible to love many people and things in life without feeling the love back. Love also does not have to be limited to two human beings, but it’s possible for people to love animals as well as inanimate objects such as food, places or even things. Of course loving objects will not cause one to receive any reciprocal love back, but it is very well possible to feel love in return from another human being or animal.

One can love even if the other being is not feeling it. This is not a relationship, but instead it is just a one-sided form of affection. Many even go as far to believe that love is only complete when it is reached from both sides in order to form a relationship. There is also a strong argument that it is actually better to be loved than to love another. The explanation here is that it is easy to love someone or something, but it’s not always as easy to get someone to love you. The lucky ones in life are loved in return.


Throughout the ages there have been some really profound love stories and sayings. Just think back to the plotline of many of your favorite novels or movies and likely love is of the main essence of the plotline. Romeo & Julietis one of the great love stories of all time, but even that had some complications along the way (and we all know how that ended, right?). To say that love is blind is really an understatement because love can really cause people to do some crazy things. Especially when there are outside forces that try to pull people apart, it can cause the bond between two people to become even stronger. True love really is the glue that can hold two people together.

But just as love can be blind between two people who are madly in love, it can also make a person fail to see signs that love may not exactly be reciprocated from the other side. The true test of love can really be summed up in this old time quote: “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, it never was.” Love can really hurt the most when the person you are in love with does not love you back. It can really be the worst feeling in the world to put so much love and energy into another, yet not receive anything back.

When you love someone and pour out your heart and soul into another it gives you the ability to really dedicate yourself to another, which gives you a greater purpose in life knowing that you matter enough to another. That’s why the rejection of love from another can really hurt and the dismissal can cause you to feel like you’ve failed. The truth is that if you do not receive love from another, despite how much you love them, it’s not love that has failed you, but the other person has (whether they can help it or not). Regardless, “it is better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all!”


While humans have been loving each other for thousands of years, it’s still somewhat of an unexplainable emotion. Some people believe that a person can fall in love with anyone or anything and that love is a choice that can be controlled, while others believe that there is a sense of unknown chemistry that needs to exist between two individuals in order for love to really be upheld.

The truth is that love is really unexplainable and uncontrollable just like so many other things in life that are beyond your control such as your looks, skin color, height, bone structure, etc. To explain love, one can turn to something as simple as peanut butter. Why do some people like peanut butter and some people don’t? No one really knows the answer. It’s ultimately just nature that’s just taking over. The same rule applies to love.

Falling in love is really truly something magical and can also be unpredictable. In order for it to really work out the way that it should, both parties in a relationship need to be fully committed and truly in love. Whether it’s better to love or be loved continues to be a contested debate, but ultimately it does not really matter which one is more important. As long as you have some form of love in your life, you’ll be one happy, blissful and delightful person!