Far too many romantic relationships have failed and ended because one or both have become bored. There is truth in the saying ‘boredom kills’, and in cases of couples or marriages, the one being killed is the relationship itself.
This then brings us to the question that is so commonly asked nowadays: ‘what to do when your relationship becomes dull?’
If all you can think about are the days that you have spent with your special someone laughing hysterically, feeling electricity whenever your hands touch each other, or enjoying shopping together, then it already means that you are becoming or you have already become bored. If you weren’t you wouldn’t be reading this article.
You wouldn’t be spending most of your time thinking about these things if there is something happy and exciting that you can think about in the present.
So What Should You Do?
First, you should understand that it is normal to feel some sort of boredom in a romantic relationship, especially if you and your partner have been together for so long. You may have grown too comfortable with each other that your relationship is now lackluster.
Your life together can reach a point where everything is already formulaic and just a routine. While the love is still definitely there, the feelings of being ‘weak-at-the-knees’ and the accelerated beating of the heart have significantly decreased.
Fortunately, there are still a lot of things that you can do to resolve these issues. You do not have to live with a relationship that has become dull. You can actually take some steps that can renew that spark and make you want to grow old with your partner. So to make your and your partner’s heart swell again, here are some of the things that can get rid of that boredom in your relationship:
Never stop listening attentively.
Do you remember how you used to hang on to every word that your partner says? Do you recall the great feeling it brought you whenever he or she has something to share?
This is one of the best feelings in the world – that someone is comfortable enough to share their deepest thoughts and most important life stories with you. It does not necessarily mean that you re-enact this point in your relationship, because it will just end up being artificial. What’s important is that you never stop listening to what your partner has to say, even if it is the most mundane thing that you have heard.
Small surprises are still surprises.
In many long term relationships, the first one to be most frequently forgotten is the element of surprise. Since you and your partner are already in a routine, both of you probably no longer think about surprising one another. So why not bring that back in your relationship? You do not have to go all out and buy your partner a new house or a car – even a small token of love and appreciation will do, as long as it comes with the surprise element.